The Happiness Crusaders

The Happiness Crusaders

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I mean, look at him. How can I be sad when he’s waiting for me? πŸ˜€

WHO’S HAPPY??

Ha. Hahaha. I know, I know. Life is hard, the world kind of sucks, and we’re writers. Sooo…. yeah.

I’m very, very fortunate. My life is pretty awesome, aside from putting my dog down last month. (Sorry for the blog post delays, btw. That kind of ruined my motivation to do much of anything. >.> ) But not many people, especially millennials, can say the same. A lot of us are wrestling with depression and anxiety and a plethora of other issues.

This isn’t new, and millennials aren’t the only ones feeling blue. (HA I rhymed. Anyway.) I’ve spent the last few weeks helping several dear friends cope with the issues in their lives, and I realized something.

Most of us are lonely as hell. :/

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It’s a big world out there! Feels empty sometimes…

Again, I’m very fortunate to have friends from lots of different circles. But my high school friends don’t know my college friends, don’t know my flight attendant friends, don’t know my writing friends. So I took a look at everyone, realized we’re all just struggling to get through life, realized a lot of us share the same problems, and decided something.

What if I united the groups? What if I made a weekly support group, just like church-goers have?

After all, religious people tend to be happier, and a big part of that is the community support and social connection of attending church every Sunday. The feeling that what you doΒ on a day-to-day basis matters, and that someone’s watching, holding you accountable. I’m not pretending my group akin to God, or Buddha, or the Flying Spaghetti Monster. But there’s something to that weekly accountability thing. Like having a workout partner, but for every other aspect of life.

And so, I’ve created theΒ HAPPINESS CRUSADERS.

As a Happiness Crusader, we’re committed to meeting weekly with our fellow Crusaders. We spend time discussing what’s frustrating us in life. Time discussing what we’re grateful for. Time discussing Happiness Tactics, based on science, spirituality, and attitude. Then we end the meeting by setting tangible goals for next week.

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We made a Slack group to keep weekly discussions and plan events, and so far there’s about 16 of us. I definitely plan on scheduling volunteering sessions or a hiking event or movie night, so it’s not just the weekly meetings. This is a social group where ALL of my circles unite, but it’s open: anyone can bring anyone, because Happiness isn’t exclusive to just me and mine.

Guys.

It’s.

Been.

Fantastic.

I’ve noticed a definite upswing in the last three weeks of my friends and their attitudes. They met people going through the same things as them, which makes us a little less alone. Our meetings are so much fun! πŸ˜€

So here’s my challenge to you, should you choose to accept it!Β Go out and start your own Happiness Crusaders club. Socialize. Practice accountability. Keep gratitude on the forefront of your mind. It really does make a difference. πŸ˜€

And if you ever want some support, you know where to find me! <3

9 Replies to “The Happiness Crusaders”

  1. Nice work, Rebecca! I approve completely! πŸ™‚ Also, the thing I’m probably happiest about is that you’re talking about loneliness openly. It’s still burdened with a lot of stigma, but I’m hoping that with steps like this, it’ll lose that stigma eventually. And then we can really start dealing with it. πŸ™‚

    1. Yeah, it’s kind of taboo to mention! I mean, even my baby boomer parents pretend they’re not lonely, or that their generation doesn’t suffer from depression like ours does. I’m pretty sure they’re just better at hiding it; out society has lost a lot of the personal connection, so it’s no wonder we’re all sad. :/

      I’d highly recommend creating a Happiness Crusaders group in your home town! It’s really been a lot of fun, and our goals have actually been achieved because our friends are constantly checking in. πŸ˜€

  2. Well done! Most of us want to be important in someones life. I think that is one of the foundations of happiness. To simply matter to someone else. Some of my friends struggle with people skills and those tend to be the ones who suffer the most. They mean well but they come off a bit rude.

    People like you draw those people out and help them learn to be with others. This is a very important group you are creating. It takes that one person to get things going and I happy to see you’re doing it.

    1. Thanks so much!! That’s really high praise; I’m flattered. πŸ˜€

      It’s really been working well. Everyone looks forward to having our weekly meet up, and we all love setting goals and holding each other accountable. I’m really happy this is where my social hours are going, and I’m sure the others feel the same! <3

      Have you thought about starting something like this in your home town? I'm sure it could only help!

      1. Hey Rebecca,

        You never know. I live in Eugene, Oregon. It’s a college town and I have no doubt there are lots of young people away from home for the first time wondering why they chose such a thing. I’ve learned to never say never. The future is always unpredictable. Just the way I like it.

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